Daddy Issues

Father's day...where to begin??? For a lot of people Father's day is a happy day that they spend honoring and hanging out with their #1 Dad. For others it can be a really sad day...some have lost their fathers, some have never met theirs, and others are estranged. For me it's the latter, and sadly it's a common tale. Parents divorce...Dad remarries younger woman...Dads new wife doesn't get along with children...Dad chooses new family over old one. The purpose of this post is not to bash my dad...I still love him and have forgiven him for his shortcomings. The purpose is to share what I've learned from it... "At some point, you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life." Because I am a "fixer" I spent many years fighting for our relationship, shed many tears, and endured  lots of heartbreak then...it hit me! If he wasn't fighting for me or our relationship, and if I wasn't important enough to him for him to fight for then what was I fighting for really? So, I just stopped fighting and prayed for peace and the ability to forgive. I got it...eventually. And for the first time in my life I learned to just let it go. That doesn't mean that I don't still get sad about it, but I have accepted that it is what it is. And the situation with my father forever changed me and how I handle my other relationships whether it be friends or family.   If a relationship of any kind is more trouble than it's worth, or if the person/people are constantly causing strife or drama in my life...I cut them loose! Basically if you aren't bringing anything to the table and I'm the one doing all the giving and loving...I don't need you in my life. It doesnt mean that I stop loving or caring about them, but I am determined to never let anyone steal my joy ever again. To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy…is to set our own conditions to the events of each day. To do this is to condition circumstances instead of being conditioned by them.--Ralph Waldo Emerson

Pants On The Ground!!!

Ok so last week Hinds County Supervisor Kenneth Stokes proposed a city ordinance to require young men to pull up their saggy pants. And while I agree that "bustin a sag" looks ridiculous, and I can't begin to understand why anyone would purposefully walk around with their underwear hanging out...last time I checked America is still the land of the free! Also I  feel like Jackson has bigger fish to fry!!! Like solving murder cases, protecting their citizens, revitalizing the city, fixing their water pipes, repaving the hot mess that is Fortification Street, and the list goes on and on and on! And that's just what I can think of right off the top of my head, but it's more than enough to keep them busy! JPD and other city leaders have plenty of more important things to do than run around writting tickets for fashion violations...They need to leave that to Joan and the fashion police!

But, as long as we are writing tickets for offensive attire around the Metro Jackon area I have a few offenders I would like to add to the "Most Wanted" list!

 #1 Tights as pants- If I've said it once I've said it 1,000 times...Tights are NOT pants!!! If you are wearing tights for the love of God please wear a shirt/dress that covers your entire butt!!!

 #2 Crocs- I can't even deal with crocs! They look ridiculous, and no one should wear them for any reason! Also, if you wear them with socks you deserve a double fine!

#3 Showing Your Thong- I feel like this is the female version of "bustin a sag"! Its gross and its trashy...STOP IT! Male/Female/White/Black/Hispanic/Asian I do NOT want to have to see your underwear against my will!!! 

#4 Too Much Cleavage- As a "busty" girl I get that it can be difficult to reign the girls in, but it can be done! If you are walking around lookin like you have an ass on your chest...Its too much!!! Put them away, and leave a little more to the imagination than a nip!

#5 Guys In Skinny Jeans- For no other reason than the fact that I hate them!!!

My point is while we may not like or agree with some people's fashion descisions...This is America! And you can dress however you want as long as your "business" is covered of course! Soooo in closing I think Mr Stokes and Hinds County should worry bout self!

No Rules..Just The Way I Like It

Well, I guess I should start by introducing myself. My name is Lori, and I
have a BIG mouth! It has gotten me into trouble, and it has gotten me out
of trouble my whole life...It's a blessing and a curse. Here's the thing
about me...I say what everyone else is thinking, I'm the friend that will
tell you the truth whether you want to hear it or not, and I do not sugar
coat!

I'm a hairstylist in Jackson. I am 30, single, and no one can say I don't
live life to the fullest! I have a great life, and I LOVE my job!!! It's
like they say..."Find a job you love, and you"ll never work another day in
your life". Okay some days its like work, but most days I just feel super
blessed that I get to hang out with my friends all day and do really cool
stuff!

My mom, sister, and grandmother are my rocks! We are your typical southern
women...Strong, loud, and proud! We drive each other crazy on a regular
basis...We fight hard and love harder. We are all very different, but I
feel like that keeps things interesting.

The thing is late at night when everyone is sleeping...I'm thinking! I
can't help it, and I can't turn it off. By it I mean my brain! So, thats
why I decided to start writing this blog. I need an outlet for all these
random thoughts that swirl through my head after midnight...for instance
right now it is 2 am and I can't go to sleep because I am thinking about
my first blog post. I feel like maybe, just maybe if I can get these
thoughts/ideas down on paper, so to speak, my brain will leave me alone
long enough to go to sleep!  Soooo, basically that's what you can expect
from this blog...random...lots and lots of random. There is no theme, no
rules, no rhyme, and no reason! I have no idea what my next post will be
about, but I'm sure it will come to me sometime after midnight while y'all
are sleepin!